Hello there hetero men, I’ve got a question for you. If you were on a vacation with some male friends and had a choice between sleeping in a bed with one of your friends and sleeping on a cold, uncomfortable floor, which would you choose?
Carlos Andrés Gómez made some interesting points about that scenario in his post, “Straight Guy in Bed With Another Man” on The Good Men Project. He talks about his experience traveling abroad and how, despite considering himself “one of those groundbreaking, ‘post-gender’ dudes who’d be able to share a bed with another guy and not have it be a big deal,” he had some insomnia-inducing anxiety about sharing a bed with his best friend.
“I thought about the source of all of this anguish produced by simply sharing a bed with another man. I thought of the sometimes subtle but mostly heavy-handed ways in which I had been socialized to be repulsed by anything even suggestive of male intimacy or affection…”