Here’s a list of things I love:
1) knowledge
2) talking about, reading about and having sex
3) people who provide a much-needed service, such as sex workers and escorts
4) men
sex education
The TEDTalks of Sex
Sexuality education as an industry seems to be on the rise these days. Everyone and their mother wants to be a sex educator, talk about sex, write about sex, etc. And I’m happy to count myself as one of those people. If you like learning about sex things, then strongly consider checking out Swellcon, a virtual conference on sex and media that was launched in August by the fine folks over at The Smitten Kitten.
Yucking A Yum
There’s a phrase in the sex education, sex-positive community that can be boiled down to “don’t judge someone else because their sexual fantasies and desires are different than yours”. It’s commonly referred to as “Don’t Yuck Someone Else’s Yum”
Even Futurama touched on this idea.
BREAKING: Women like porn too! And Pat Robertson is confused about that.
This is one of those videos that I watch, and I’m not sure whether to feel enraged at the way Pat Robertson and his co-host, Kristi Watts, conceptualize and discuss women, or to laugh at his utter confusion at the idea that women are sexual human beings, just like men (or boys, as he refers to them).
Pornographic photography in 1910s (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
So I just decided not to let this very confused elderly gentleman get under my skin, and instead I’ll try to clear up some misconceptions Robertson seems to have about women and humans in general.
Safer sex — It’s kind of big deal
Communication can be tricky. Check out these sample conversations on how to make those “awkward” exchanges easier, from Scarleteen.
Check out the video below for some very important tips on effective condom use.
Click here for a quiz that narrows down birth control options that might work well for you.
And here is a great idea from Sex Nerd Sandra. Come make your safer sex kit at Self Serve.
If you’re in Albuquerque and need to get tested, check out the Stanford Clinic on the University of New Mexico’s North Campus. The majority of their services are FREE. Click here for a PDF of their offered services. You can call them at 505.841.4100 or visit them at 1111 Stanford Dr. NE.
And finally, have a little fun with this Human Sexuality Map. Try it with a partner for some stimulating conversation.
Strap-on fun for everyone!
Strapping on a dildo with a harness can be an exciting new sexual experience to try with your partner.
Strap-on sex is a great activity for hetero and homosexual couples, as well as bisexual and trans people. It can be really exciting for a woman to play around with the role reversal and to feel like she has a penis, and lots of men find it attractive if their female partner takes control.
Men are extra lucky when it comes to anal insertion because they have a prostate, which if stimulated before and during orgasm can make ejaculation feel more explosive and intense
Dildo being used by two women. Lithograph from De Figuris Veneris (1906) by Édouard-Henri Avril (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Insertive sex can be a big deal, so make sure you are communicating with your partner before, during and after the event. Use lube, make sure your partner is relaxed and don’t forget about their other sexy parts (clitoris, penis, tits, butts and such).
For more information about strapping it on check out the above video of Self Serve’s Molly Adler as she gives a five-part video tutorial on tips and tricks for strapping it on.
Don’t forget the lube!
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‘Why we need sex-ed now’ infographic from Public Health Degree
Toys, not just for kids
Publish in the University of New Mexico‘s student newspaper, the Daily Lobo on Feb. 15, 2012.
Sex toys don’t have to be pricey, shaped like an animal or bright purple — you have five of the best sex toys on each of your hands.
Awkward talks lead to worry-free, intimate sex
Talking about sex before you have it increases the odds that you will enjoy the relationship, and the sex, to the fullest.
Does your sex life suck? Then learn how to blow!
Published in the University of New Mexico’s student newspaper, the Daily Lobo on Dec. 07, 2011
If you’re in a relationship and have made the decision not to have intercourse, you and your partner can still have regular orgasms and maintain a type of sexual relationship.
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