Feminist porn is a growing industry, but there are still lots of questions about what is means to make and watch feminist porn. I found a guide to help you navigate the porny waters. Here’s a breakdown.
1. Forget What You Think You Know
Feminist porn isn’t just for women. It can be enjoyed by lots of different folks because it offers up so much variety in what you see. You see people of all different body types, colors, ability and more. You might find you’re into something you never would have found watching/looking at one genre of porn.
There are already books, awards and even conferences dedicated to talking about feminist porn. You can also take a look at the annual Feminist Porn Awards for some ideas on where to start in your adventure.
3. Check in With the Performers Themselves
Performers and directors in feminist porn are very accessible via social media. If you have questions about what you see and what makes it ethical or feminist, just ask them.
You get what you pay for. And this is some high quality stuff! Instead of going to the candy isle when you go to the porn grocery store, pick some up fruits and vegetables too! These people are making porn we can learn from. Most porn doesn’t have that quality. This is porn that talks about or models consent and communicating about desires.
This is one of those videos that I watch, and I’m not sure whether to feel enraged at the way Pat Robertson and his co-host, Kristi Watts, conceptualize and discuss women, or to laugh at his utter confusion at the idea that women are sexual human beings, just like men (or boys, as he refers to them).
Pornographic photography in 1910s (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
So I just decided not to let this very confused elderly gentleman get under my skin, and instead I’ll try to clear up some misconceptions Robertson seems to have about women and humans in general.
Tristan Taormino award-winning author, columnist, editor, sex educator, and porn director. Taken at the Feminist Porn Awards in Toronto, ON, Canada (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I can’t tell you all the ways I love the work that Tristan Taormino does. Now you all get to love her too on her new radio show “Sex Out Loud”
The show will take calls from listeners as well as host special guests to discuss a range of topics from BDSM to polyamory. The show airs on Friday at 8 pm EST but you can listen to older shows here. It’s great to have yet another sex-positive, educated person talking about sex, culture, politics and other important topics that many radio and TV shows don’t touch on.
The show is hosted on VoiceAmerica, so go check it out. You just might learn a thing or two.
Porn can be such a great topping for your sex life sundae. It can make masturbation more fun, give you ideas of what you want to do with a partner and sometimes it’s purely entertainment (search ‘porn bloopers’). But a lot of the porn you see on bigger porn sites is made with a very specific formula. And one of the possible problems of watching porn is that you might assume it’s a literal demonstration of what sex is.
It’s not. It’s a fantasy about a sexual encounter, and those are normal. The long and short of it is that porn is so fun because it’s a fantasy, and sex is so great because it’s really happening to you.
Tracy Clark-Flory, a staff writer for Salon.com had the experience of sleeping with her favorite porn star in real life.
Read her account of how it all went down after the jump, or at salon.com.
Published in the University of New Mexico’s student newspaper, the Daily Lobo, on April 14, 2010.
Sex doesn’t have to take one form or be done one way, and neither should porn. But it seems that a lot of porn is produced and made a specific way and there isn’t much variation. You’ve got your stars, who are cast for specific traits, and you’ve got your plot (or lack thereof), and you have the specific intended desires of the viewer, such as lesbian porn or anal porn. But most mainstream porn producers are leaving out a key demographic: women.