*** UPDATE: AFTER LEARNING ABOUT MULTIPLE WOMEN COMING FORWARD WITH ALLEGATIONS ABOUT JAMES DEEN’S ABUSIVE & COERCIVE BEHAVIOR, I NO LONGER ENDORSE OR SUPPORT ANY WORK THAT JAMES DEEN DOES UNTIL HE MAKES VISIBLE AND LASTING EFFORTS TO ADMIT & APOLOGIZE FOR HIS ACTIONS.***
So maybe you’ve heard of James Deen. He’s kind of popular. He’s one of the most popular male porn stars at the moment and has a loyal following of women (and probably men, too!) ages 18-24, and beyond, most likely. For more on what makes Deen so attractive, I recommend watching some of his work, through one of the excellent sites that offers it. One of my favorites are Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasm, which you can rent and buy at Self Serve.
Have you ever wondered what sex on psychedelic drugs is like?
This is an enlightening essay on Nerve.com about one man’s journey on acid into sensuality and sexuality. It was all in the name of science!
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Not only is this essay well written, in my opinion, it also talks about one of the best tips for adding sensuality to your foreplay and sex life in general.
“What I quickly realized — and I’m sad to say I hadn’t known it before — is that any part of the body can be made love to. I found that by rubbing, kissing, and sucking first on the side of S.’s leg, just above the knee, and later her neck, I could create the most intense feelings, both for her and for me. In my mind, I really felt as if I was interacting with her genitally, and later, S. told me she felt like she had a second pussy!”
I think their experience points to a very important idea in sex, that many of us skip over — we think it’s all about the genitals.
Sex is so many things, and based on this account, it was a profound sensual and arousing experience.
Also, now I know what a perfect mathematical center orgasm is!
“Thinking off” and other fun facts from people who know a lot about orgasms.
Orgasms are pretty amazing, don’t you think?
Two very nice sex educators, Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller, wrote a book in 2007, “I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide,” and Miller will be at UNM on Tuesday to talk about this subject so near and dear to our hearts.
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Miller will be co-presenting at UNM with Maggie Keenan-Bolger for the program, The Female Orgasm. The presentation will be at 7 pm on Tuesday, Sept. 25 in the UNM Sub Ballrooms. For more info on the program, click here.
If you want to know more about the lovely and often misunderstood female orgasm, come check it out. In the meantime, check out the Q&A I did with Miller and Solot over email.
1) What can a women do if she doesn’t have orgasms during intercourse with a male partner?
First of all, she should know that she’s NORMAL! In fact, most of her female friends are probably having the same experience. Only about 30 percent of women with male partners can have orgasms from intercourse alone. The idea that women are SUPPOSED to reach the Big O this way comes from TV and movies, not real life, and has left a lot of couples confused and frustrated!
A few ideas for what she can do: – Touch her own clitoris (or have her partner do so) while they’re having intercourse. This is hands-down (pun intended!) the most popular way to solve the problem. – Use a vibrator on her clit (or have her partner do so) while having intercourse. Self-Serve can help! – Experiment with angles and positions to try to increase clitoral stimulation, maybe by rubbing against the man’s pubic bone or the shaft of his penis. – Stop trying! Enjoy an orgasm before an intercourse or after. There’s no gold star given to women who can come during intercourse — and an awful lot of sweat and tears wasted on trying to achieve that goal.
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Did you know that about 70% of women don’t achieve orgasm through vaginal intercourse? That is just one of the myths that Dr. Logan Levkoff addresses in her Huffington Post piece about female sexuality. Because sex is so taboo in many cultures, it’s easy for urban myths to spread through media, word of mouth and experience.
Well, in case you want more info about how to make a lady feel real good, here is a video from Self Serve Toys that details female masturbation techniques on beautiful puppet. Watch the video, have your lady friend watch the video and then have her go practice on herself. Then once she has the feel of it, let her show you how she likes it. After that, you’re probably on your way to orgasm city.
If you’ve got a penis you may have heard about your prostate. It’s kind of important. Well lucky for you, giving your prostate a massage during sex can increase sensation and basically feel real nice when you come. The Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality writes,
“The prostate gland is the size of a walnut. It is found in front of the rectum and just below the bladder, which stores urine. The prostate makes some of the milky fluid (semen) that carries sperm. The prostate wraps around a tube (the urethra) that carries urine from the bladder out through the tip of the penis.
During a man’s orgasm (sexual climax), muscles squeeze the prostate’s fluid into the urethra. Sperm, which are made in the testicles, also go into the urethra during orgasm. The milky fluid carries the sperm through the penis during orgasm.”
Just like how women have a g-spot, that if stimulated can make them ejaculate a clear fluid when they orgasm, men have their p-spot that has the same function, but most men can ejaculate without the prostate stimulation.