“Thinking off” and other fun facts from people who know a lot about orgasms.
Orgasms are pretty amazing, don’t you think?
Two very nice sex educators, Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller, wrote a book in 2007, “I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide,” and Miller will be at UNM on Tuesday to talk about this subject so near and dear to our hearts.
Miller will be co-presenting at UNM with Maggie Keenan-Bolger for the program, The Female Orgasm. The presentation will be at 7 pm on Tuesday, Sept. 25 in the UNM Sub Ballrooms. For more info on the program, click here.
If you want to know more about the lovely and often misunderstood female orgasm, come check it out. In the meantime, check out the Q&A I did with Miller and Solot over email.
1) What can a women do if she doesn’t have orgasms during intercourse with a male partner?
First of all, she should know that she’s NORMAL! In fact, most of her female friends are probably having the same experience. Only about 30 percent of women with male partners can have orgasms from intercourse alone. The idea that women are SUPPOSED to reach the Big O this way comes from TV and movies, not real life, and has left a lot of couples confused and frustrated!
A few ideas for what she can do:
– Touch her own clitoris (or have her partner do so) while they’re having intercourse. This is hands-down (pun intended!) the most popular way to solve the problem.
– Use a vibrator on her clit (or have her partner do so) while having intercourse. Self-Serve can help!
– Experiment with angles and positions to try to increase clitoral stimulation, maybe by rubbing against the man’s pubic bone or the shaft of his penis.
– Stop trying! Enjoy an orgasm before an intercourse or after. There’s no gold star given to women who can come during intercourse — and an awful lot of sweat and tears wasted on trying to achieve that goal.