Feminist porn is a growing industry, but there are still lots of questions about what is means to make and watch feminist porn. I found a guide to help you navigate the porny waters. Here’s a breakdown.
1. Forget What You Think You Know
Feminist porn isn’t just for women. It can be enjoyed by lots of different folks because it offers up so much variety in what you see. You see people of all different body types, colors, ability and more. You might find you’re into something you never would have found watching/looking at one genre of porn.
There are already books, awards and even conferences dedicated to talking about feminist porn. You can also take a look at the annual Feminist Porn Awards for some ideas on where to start in your adventure.
3. Check in With the Performers Themselves
Performers and directors in feminist porn are very accessible via social media. If you have questions about what you see and what makes it ethical or feminist, just ask them.
You get what you pay for. And this is some high quality stuff! Instead of going to the candy isle when you go to the porn grocery store, pick some up fruits and vegetables too! These people are making porn we can learn from. Most porn doesn’t have that quality. This is porn that talks about or models consent and communicating about desires.
Hello there hetero men, I’ve got a question for you. If you were on a vacation with some male friends and had a choice between sleeping in a bed with one of your friends and sleeping on a cold, uncomfortable floor, which would you choose?
Carlos Andrés Gómez made some interesting points about that scenario in his post, “Straight Guy in Bed With Another Man” on The Good Men Project. He talks about his experience traveling abroad and how, despite considering himself “one of those groundbreaking, ‘post-gender’ dudes who’d be able to share a bed with another guy and not have it be a big deal,” he had some insomnia-inducing anxiety about sharing a bed with his best friend.
“I thought about the source of all of this anguish produced by simply sharing a bed with another man. I thought of the sometimes subtle but mostly heavy-handed ways in which I had been socialized to be repulsed by anything even suggestive of male intimacy or affection…”
How women are portrayed in the media is an interesting and often complex topic with layers of internalized sexism. Obviously there are offensive and degrading representations of women, and media, like most of the industries, is dominated by men. Which means women aren’t often part of the decision-making process about media publications or ads.
This promo for the film Miss Representation talks with several inspiring feminists about what the problems are, what the consequences are and how we can change them.
As a woman who is also a part of the media I completely agree that it is vital to have more women in positions of power not only in the media, but also in government and regulating bodies.
I hope you enjoy this short video about Miss Representation, and that it can help bring about some thought-provoking conversation and hopefully some change in the media environment.