So you want to be less creepy. Charlie Glickman has some advice.


Charlie Glickman educates around adult sexuality and is an author and speaker. He recently posted a brief piece about creepy men and gave tips on how to avoid being creepy when you are interested in a woman. I think these rules can be applied to any person.

Creepiness ends up affecting all of us, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, and it’s especially challenging for male-female interactions. Plenty of women have articulately described how annoying it is for them, though so far, I’ve seen far fewer men talk about how it affects us.

It’s important for guys to be talking about this, too.Given the very scary possible consequences for women when men approach them, I think it’s entirely reasonable for someone to assume that a random guy hitting on her is a possible predator until he demonstrates otherwise. I understand that that creates a frustrating situation- after all, who likes to have to prove their good intentions? And it’s also one of the many ways in which sexism and misogyny make things harder for men. If you want that to change, work to change things. Don’t complain that women don’t assume you’re a good guy. Their reasons for not doing so are useful protective measures in a world that sets them up as targets to be harassed, groped, and assaulted while simultaneously blaming them for it.”

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Strap-on fun for everyone!


Strapping on a dildo with a harness can be an exciting new sexual experience to try with your partner.

Strap-on sex  is a great activity for hetero and homosexual couples, as well as bisexual and trans people. It can be really exciting for a woman to play around with the role reversal and to feel like she has a penis, and lots of men find it attractive if their female partner takes control.

Men are extra lucky when it comes to anal insertion because they have a prostate, which if stimulated before and during orgasm can make ejaculation feel more explosive and intense

Dildo being used by two women. Lithograph from...

Dildo being used by two women. Lithograph from De Figuris Veneris (1906) by Édouard-Henri Avril (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Insertive sex can be a big deal, so make sure you are communicating with your partner before, during and after the event. Use lube, make sure your partner is relaxed and don’t forget about their other sexy parts (clitoris, penis, tits, butts and such).

For more information about strapping it on check out the above video of  Self Serve’s Molly Adler as she gives a five-part video tutorial on tips and tricks for strapping it on.

Don’t forget the lube!