I’ve been busy – but here’s a cool image about consent

Sooo it’s been a while since I’ve posted something. It’s because I’m graduating and working two jobs, so life’s been busy. Hopefully this will tide you over for a little while. I’ll be back in action once I have those papers. If you want to check out some of the other writing I’ve been doing, check out Self Serve’s blog.


Source: vitaminw.co via Kathryn on Pinterest

Why our culture has such a hard time talking about sex

Talking about sex in a public forum isn’t always easy. People haven’t been raised to talk about sex openly and without shame or embarrassment. Most of that begins in our childhood years, in my opinion.

Jimmy Jane "Fuck Design" vibrator

Our societal norms often tells us we need to protect kids from sex, because sex and sexuality will ruin their innocence. So parents generally don’t talk about sex in a realistic way with their children until puberty, or often not at all.

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And what a gay year it was!

BuzzFeed LGBT highlights 60 moments the U.S. and the world can be proud of. And when you see all the events that happened in the last 365 days, it does actually look like significant progress.

I think Dan Savage put it best when he said on his Twitter account: “This is what a cultural tipping point looks like. Read it and weep, haters.”

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Send in your secrets

Debby Herbenick

Debby Herbenick (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Check out this website from Indiana University, IUSecrets, where you can share your secrets by sending them to Dr. Debby Herbenick via snail mail. The postcards are then posted on the website.

From the web site

The IUSecrets project was initially started as a class assignment in Dr. Herbenick’s Human Sexuality classes. The idea was to show students that people just like them – men and women their same age, in their same community, who they sat next to each week throughout the semester – were going through very similar things (and sometimes much more difficult experiences). Since then, it has broadened to include the IU community, in partnership with the IU Health Center, during Wellness Week 2011 and 2012.”

Click here to share your secrets.

Dead Dear

Through drunken additions on Facebook I recently became the acquaintance of Kai “Vanderbilt”. That’s not her actual name, but we decided on that pseudonym because of google searches or black helicopters or something, I really wasn’t paying attention. I was just picking out funny surnames. Kai works on a site called wehappytrans.com and is a transgendered person herself. We talked a lot about gender issues and a bunch of other things, because for some reason there are still issues of misunderstanding surrounding the whole community. We also talked a bit about her site and its mission.

C-Who are you as a person?

K-25, former Detroiter, graphic / web designer, glasses enthusiast

C: So Wehappytrans.com, what exactly is it?

K: It’s “a place for positive trans* perspectives”, because the media is saturated in negative portrayals and negative stories about the gender transgressive community and we want to highlight what a…

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Hmmmm. This is one person’s experience at the Southwest Gay and Lesbian Film Festival. I can’t say I agree, what do you think?

Adventist Voice

I attended my first gay and lesbian film festival today.  I paid my $10 and sat down in the theater to watch the documentary Seventh-Gay Adventist. 

You may be asking, “How in the world did you end up at a gay and lesbian film festival?”  If you knew me as a kid, teenager, and young adult, you would know that I have always liked girls.  Not only that, I continue to be happily married to my beautiful wife and have no desire to change gender teams.

It just happened that the pro-homosexual documentary was being screened at the Southwest Gay and Lesbian Film Festival.  How do I know the film is pro-homosexual?  Well… I attended the screening for myself today and saw the facts with my own two eyes. 

Before we were allowed to enter the theater, the attendees had to stand out in the warm New Mexico sunshine.  I…

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