Take My Online Course “Mastering the BJ: Interactive Skills”

I have been so busy in the last year working on a project that I hope you’ll enjoy! I teach a class at Self Serve Toys in Albuquerque, NM called “Mastering the BJ: Interactive Skills”

It is one of the most popular classes we offer, so I figured it’s about time to have this class online so we can share the love with everyone who isn’t able to attend an in-store class. So, without further delay, here it is via Vimeo!

Hawt! A sexy photo of vulva massage

This is a pretty awesome Pinterest page that I highly recommend. I chose this photo because it illustrates something a lot of men and women probably don’t do enough of – vulva massage! The vulva is the outside part of a woman’s genitals, the vagina is the part inside. The vulva is incredibly rich with nerve endings and can often get left out during penis/vagina intercourse. Use your hands, your mouth or a toy to indulge a vulva in a well-deserved massage.

In case you want some further instruction, Self Serve Sexuality Resource Center carries some amazing educational DVDs on sensual massage techniques from the New School of Erotic Touch. Call us at 505.265.5815 to order yours. I recommend “Best of Vulva Massage I” and “Best of Vulva Massage II” for more info on this specific topic.

Safer sex just got sexier

The FC2 condom is a great alternative to the male, aka external, condom. The FC2 works for both male and female bodies, and it is often used for anal sex.
Have you ever used an internal condom like the FC2?




Safer sex — It’s kind of big deal

Communication can be tricky. Check out these sample conversations on how to make those “awkward” exchanges easier,  from Scarleteen.

Check out the video below for some very important tips on effective condom use.

Click here for a quiz that narrows down birth control options that might work well for you.

And here is a great idea from Sex Nerd Sandra. Come make your safer sex kit at Self Serve.



If you’re in Albuquerque and need to get tested, check out the Stanford Clinic on the University of New Mexico’s North Campus. The majority of their services are FREE. Click here for a PDF of their offered services. You can call them at 505.841.4100 or visit them at 1111 Stanford Dr. NE.



And finally, have a little fun with this Human Sexuality Map. Try it with a partner for some stimulating conversation.