Take My Online Course “Mastering the BJ: Interactive Skills”


I have been so busy in the last year working on a project that I hope you’ll enjoy! I teach a class at Self Serve Toys in Albuquerque, NM called “Mastering the BJ: Interactive Skills”

It is one of the most popular classes we offer, so I figured it’s about time to have this class online so we can share the love with everyone who isn’t able to attend an in-store class. So, without further delay, here it is via Vimeo!

This One Time at the International Lingerie Show….


I had the pleasure of attending the 2014 International Lingerie Show in Las Vegas, NV at the end of March. And what a pleasure it was!

ILS is kind of like summer camp for sex toy and lingerie nerds, so as you can imagine, it was entertaining, enlightening and just plain fun to go hang out with people who design and sell sex toys. My favorite part about my experience was seeing the diversity of folks who attend ILS. There were people there who looked like my mom and even my grandma, there were porn stars, there were design nerds, models and people who’ve been in the industry for years. Continue reading

5 Things James Deen can Teach You about Sex


*** UPDATE: AFTER LEARNING ABOUT MULTIPLE WOMEN COMING FORWARD WITH ALLEGATIONS ABOUT JAMES DEEN’S ABUSIVE & COERCIVE BEHAVIOR, I NO LONGER ENDORSE OR SUPPORT ANY WORK THAT JAMES DEEN DOES UNTIL HE MAKES VISIBLE AND LASTING EFFORTS TO ADMIT & APOLOGIZE FOR HIS ACTIONS.***

 

So maybe you’ve heard of James Deen. He’s kind of popular. He’s one of the most popular male porn stars at the moment and has a loyal following of women (and probably men, too!) ages 18-24, and beyond, most likely. For more on what makes Deen so attractive, I recommend watching some of his work, through one of the excellent sites that offers it. One of my favorites are Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasm, which you can rent and buy at Self Serve.

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Cock Tease from Wolf Hudson, and ethical porn star.


In case you don’t know Wolf Hudson, consider checking him out. He’s in lots of my favorite feminist porn titles. Check out his (hot) body of work, wolfhudsonisbad.com/

Cock Tease from Wolf Hudson

Feminist porn is a growing industry, but there are still lots of questions about what is means to make and watch feminist porn. I found a guide to help you navigate the porny waters. Here’s a breakdown.

1. Forget What You Think You Know

Feminist porn isn’t just for women. It can be enjoyed by lots of different folks because it offers up so much variety in what you see. You see people of all different body types, colors, ability and more. You might find you’re into something you never would have found watching/looking at one genre of porn.

Carlyle Jansen, owner of feminist adult store Good For Her and founder of the Feminist Porn Awards explains: “People think we’re the Lesbian Porn Awards or the Man Hating Porn Awards; they think feminism is passé. We want women’s, men’s, and trans perspectives; we’re not just looking for what women want.”

2. Consult the Experts!

There are already books, awards and even conferences dedicated to talking about feminist porn. You can also take a look at the annual Feminist Porn Awards for some ideas on where to start in your adventure.

3. Check in With the Performers Themselves

Performers and directors in feminist porn are very accessible via social media. If you have questions about what you see and what makes it ethical or feminist, just ask them.

4. Learn More About It

Check out the Feminist Porn Book and hopefully soon, an academic journal devoted to porn studies.

5. Vote With Your Dollar

You get what you pay for. And this is some high quality stuff! Instead of going to the candy isle when you go to the porn grocery store, pick some up fruits and vegetables too! These people are making porn we can learn from. Most porn doesn’t have that quality. This is porn that talks about or models consent and communicating about desires.
Wanna see how feminist porn people party? Check out the Flickr account for the Feminist Porn Awards.