Self Serve’s review of Tenga’s high-tech male masturbatin toy, the Flip Hole

“It’s like an obstacle course for your penis, which is a good thing.”

I think it’s quite unfortunate there aren’t as many masturbation toys for men as there are for women. There is an irrational stigma against male masturbation that portrays it as gross, or creepy. Well I and many other sex-positive people want you men out there to know that masturbation is not creepy or gross.

Some sex toy companies are trying to change that stigma. And the very smart people in Japan at Tenga have developed some really excellent male sex toys. Not that there aren’t already sex toys out there for men, such as the Fleshlight. But men’s sex toys need more variety. Some people like to fuck a toy that looks like a vagina or an anus, and some guys don’t get turned on by the jelly imitation toys. Tenga is filling that niche of guys who want to masturbate with more than their hand, but don’t want something that looks like a pussy or an asshole.

Check out this article on about the rise of male masturbation toys. Don’t worry boys, soon enough you will have a plethora of pocket pussies to choose from, and more! And don’t forget about your good friend in the rear, your prostate. For lots of guys it makes ejaculation more intense. And there are already a variety of prostate and anal toys out there for you to try. Don’t be shy.

Here is a review from Self Serve in Albuquerque of Tenga’s Flip Hole.



Violet Blue kissed and told.

Violet Blue

Violet Blue (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It’s a bummer about all those important things you were never taught in school — like kissing. Kissing is, for many people, a fundamental part of their relationship, and the first kiss can sometimes make or break a relationship. Kissing styles vary, but I think the guidelines in the video below by Violet Blue, are basically right on.

If you’ve ever felt insecure about your kissing technique, watch Violet Blue’s video trailer for her book “Seal it With a Kiss.” Violet Blue is one of the most prominent sex and technology writers and has several great videos, books and blogs.

You can also ask someone you’ve kissed before on what they think you could improve, emphasize that honesty is essential and you won’t get mad when they tell you the possibly not-so-fun-to-hear truth.

Check out her various websites for more of Violet Blue. And keep up the kissing.

Important information about female sexuality and orgasms

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Did you know that about 70% of women don’t achieve orgasm through vaginal intercourse? That is just one of the myths that Dr. Logan Levkoff addresses in her Huffington Post piece about female sexuality. Because sex is so taboo in many cultures, it’s easy for urban myths to spread through media, word of mouth and experience.

Dr. Logan Levkoff: 5 1/2 Myths About Female Sexuality.

Well, in case you want more info about how to make a lady feel real good, here is a video from Self Serve Toys that details female masturbation techniques on beautiful puppet. Watch the video, have your lady friend watch the video and then have her go practice on herself. Then once she has the feel of it, let her show you how she likes it. After that, you’re probably on your way to orgasm city.

Sex toys and the nasty things they are frequently made of

This video addresses the sketchy but common practice of putting carcinogenic chemicals such as phlalates in the majority of sex toys. But don’t let that get you down. There are quite  a few sex shops that only carry phlalate-free products. For a list of such stores, check out the Progressive Pleasure Club.

Toxic Sex Toys with Jennifer Pritchett from Smitten Kitten on Vimeo.

‘Therapy’ can’t turn you straight again, according to psychiatrist Robert Spitzer

Psychiatrist Robert Spitzer’s 2001 study claimed, “gay men and women could be turned straight through psychotherapy.”

Now over a decade later, he asked the American Prospect to a retraction. His sample in the study was 143 gay men and 57 lesbians, who according to critics of the study, were open to and in favor of the idea that they could change their sexual orientation.

And as Wayne Besen, author of the book, Anything But Straight: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth, said the idea that homosexuals can change their sexuality through therapy is a fading notion that many people don’t believe.

“Spitzer just kicked out the final leg from the stool on which the proponents of “ex-gay” therapy based their already shaky claims of success,” Besen told the

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Asexuality is just another orientatioon and not something that needs fixing, according to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network

This is a great website and I encourage everyone to know more about all the various orientations out there.

via davidglijay on Flickr.

David Jay, pictured here, is the founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network.

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Something you might not know about cock rings

I work at a great sex shop in Albuquerque called Self Serve. Everyday I’m there I learn crazy/awesome/weird new things about sex and I hear lots of interesting stories about customer’s  sex lives. I also hear some of the common misunderstandings about sex and sex toys. Cock rings are one of the toys people are most confused about.

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