The following is from a great WordPress blog, Female Gazing, that I found yesterday. This post is about porn star James Deen. Read and enjoy!
Why I’d Be Glad If My Daughter Was Watching James Deen
I recently started following porn star James Deen on twitter, reading articles about him and watching videos of him… being interviewed on ABC (Hi Mom!). Oh, and watching him smack ladies around a little bit, but that goes without saying.
The Nightline segment makes Deen sound like the black mold lurking in your bathroom poisoning your family, an invisible threat, killing your children.
In fact I think James Deen is one of the most positive sexual influences your teenage daughter can have.
“I’ve been into rough sex pretty much my whole sexual life and so I’m not, like, bad at it,” Mr. Deen told me by phone last month, on his 26th birthday.“I don’t know how to say it without being a hideous prick, but I’m pretty good at having rough sex. It got to the point where a lot of girls who aren’t into that type of sex were afraid to work with me because they thought I was going to slap them in the face or something. But I only do that if the girl is into it. There’s no reason to choke somebody if they don’t like getting choked. Then you’re basically being an asshole.” [x]
I’d rather my daughter sneak around tumblr looking for gif’s of James Deen and explore her sexuality and desires with him than profess her love for Chris Brown.
Reason 1: If you develop an obsession with James Deen you start to google around for actual information about him as a person and then when you read interviews with him you realize that he’s actually a sex-positive feminist.
Reason 2: James Deen is a Jew and instilling a love for James Deen in my daughter means that she’ll look for other Jewish looking fellas – Ta Da Jewish grandbabies!
Reason 3: When James Deen is ‘working’ he is the physical embodiment of consent culture. He is the most attentive partner a teenage girl is likely to see in this world. In most of his videos this is visible in his continuing to do whatever fabulous thing he’s doing at his lady’s enthusiastic-consent-eyes/breathing/nod/whatever, but you always get the feeling that if she winced for just a moment he would stop the action no matter what the director said.
Reason 4: Kink. James Deen likes (and is damn good at) rough sex. What better way to explore what turns your crank than by watching Mr. Consent show someone a really great time.
Yes, I’d rather my daughter idolize Porn Star James Deen than Christian Bale, Nicolas Cage, Mel Gibson, or Bill Cosby.
Please, Nightline, join my team.
As far as the objection that legal minor/preteen/single digit is ‘too young’ to be viewing porn I’ll leave you with what my mother used to tell me when I was a kid: ”If young people want to have sex, they’re going to have sex and there’s nothing you can do about it.” Same goes for watching porn.