If you’ve got a penis you may have heard about your prostate. It’s kind of important. Well lucky for you, giving your prostate a massage during sex can increase sensation and basically feel real nice when you come. The Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality writes,
“The prostate gland is the size of a walnut. It is found in front of the rectum and just below the bladder, which stores urine. The prostate makes some of the milky fluid (semen) that carries sperm. The prostate wraps around a tube (the urethra) that carries urine from the bladder out through the tip of the penis.
During a man’s orgasm (sexual climax), muscles squeeze the prostate’s fluid into the urethra. Sperm, which are made in the testicles, also go into the urethra during orgasm. The milky fluid carries the sperm through the penis during orgasm.”
Just like how women have a g-spot, that if stimulated can make them ejaculate a clear fluid when they orgasm, men have their p-spot that has the same function, but most men can ejaculate without the prostate stimulation.
Knowing what it’s like to have something inserted in your ass is especially important for men who want to give anal sex to their partner but their partner is unsure. If you know from experience you will probably be more considerate about anal play, and the chances of the receiver liking it are higher. You’ll know what type of motion feels good and how it takes time to relax your muscles. It will show your partner, who might think otherwise, that anal play doesn’t have to hurt and it can actually feel great.
Many men say that having their prostate massaged either manually, with a toy or through anal sex can make their orgasm more intense due to the muscle contractions around the prostate. One of my friends who has discovered the joy of his prostate said “it’s kind of like when you go to the restroom and take the best shit of your life, it kind of makes you feel like you’re going to come.”
Don’t be shy about giving yourself a prostate massage. In case you’re interested but don’t know how, here is a two-part video that shows you the technique on a mannequin. My previously mentioned friend added that for bonus sensation during the massage you can use your thumb to rub your perineum, the sensitive patch of skin between your balls and asshole, also known as the taint. Try giving yourself a prostate massage alone first, then bring it up to your partner and give him or her a hands on lesson.
Even if you have mind-blowing sex now without a prostate massage, this could be a great addition to your sexy time, a special treat for special occasions. Think of it like this, if you’ve never tried a prostate massage it might be like going out to eat at restaurants all your life but never ordering or eating dessert.
If you try and like it, here are a few prostate toys you can buy at Self Serve in Albuquerque that do some of the work for you. But make sure you’re choosy about what toys you put up your butt. They must have a wider base than the rest of the toy so you don’t accidentally lose it up there. Also make sure you cut your nails, wash your hands and your butt and consider using some latex gloves. For more info about safe, clean anal play check out this page from San Francisco sex shop, Good Vibrations.